CHASTITY Q&A


Ruffled Sheets:
 When did you start controlling orgasms?


Goddess Maya Liyer:
I started controlling orgasms at the tender age of 18, by the time I hit adolescence, I outgrew my "tomboyishness" and developed into a sexually attractive young woman. Within this short time span, I noticed that both men and women found me alluring, which was a new and exciting concept. With this new stage of physical development, I learnt to cultivate sexual savoir-faire in the ever-changing world as I entered into adulthood. Being youthful, beautiful, and a virgin had its advantages over people, something I grew to understand. My first experience with chastity was in my first relationship. 



Ruffled Sheets:
 Did you start with chastity devices straight away?


Goddess Maya Liyer:
I started with mental chastity, due to the fact I was sexually inexperienced and made my boyfriend refrain from sexual intercourse; this method is commonly used in many cultures and religions throughout the centuries. Effective communication, building trust, honour and virtue were paramount to my first sexual encounter and subsequent exploration. I was pure in body, yet wicked in thought and I used this to mentally torment him, testing his mental capacity for self-control and self- restraint. I would playfully tease and deny him of pleasure, withholding the gift of purity, with painful thoughts of sin, using my feminine charms to seduce and toy with him, drawing out his natural submissive tendencies. I revelled in the power I had over him and this ensured that he would pay close attention to me and my awakening sexual demands. 


Ruffled Sheets:
 What do you enjoy most about denying orgasms?


Goddess Maya Liyer:
Establishing the rules, boundaries, timeframe and limitations of orgasm denial with a submissive is a very enjoyable part of the process. Using a chastity device or mental chastity, I relish the dynamism and magnetic flow of power exchange and control I have over the submissive. By taking away the fundamental essence of manhood and what it represents figuratively and literally, I love seeing how the physiological and psychological impact on his mind, body and soul often leads to a downward spiral of pain and vulnerability into the abyss with no hope of escape. I  enjoy the fact that the subject is weakened by the knowledge that I am the key holder, the saviour and tormentor. I usually hold the key in plain sight, often on a chain around my slender neck or ankle. To unlock the chaste snake, he must submit to my every whim "Red Hot and Deadly" Goddess Maya Liyer. Now that is a "Mindf*ck" in which I take immense pleasure.


Ruffled Sheets:
 How long do you tend to keep your subs lock / without orgasm?

Goddess Maya Liyer:
"How long is a piece of string? " Chastity takes many forms in my world. Whether it be loyal patrons who I see on a real-time basis, online long distance subs, filming subs and my fans who purchase my chastity clips from my clip store.  All these scenarios differ in manner and level of experience. Consent, safety, privacy, discretion, continuous communication, having exploratory fun, aims, goals and outcomes for both parties are of paramount importance. Everything is relative to the situation, but most importantly, I hold the key to their orgasmic destiny in all scenarios, physical and mental.

Ruffled Sheets:
What's the longest you've denied anyone? 

Goddess Maya Liyer:
The longest chastity experience is with my current long-term partner,  in a loving and well balanced 24/7 female lead relationship (FLR) setting. We have been together for over four years and from the moment we became an item, I put a "ring on it" - a chastity device on him. He is currently still in chastity and I have pure admiration and a true sense of pride for my love.
The longest I have denied a real-time patron would be  24/7  for six months, alongside Total Power Exchange (TPE) and Financial Domination (Findom). He came to me as a lost man without a purpose and I guided him with strict rules, daily tasks and monitoring. This gave him a different outlook on his life with a system that rewarded him for good behaviour and rained down punishments for bad behaviour.
I may start writing regularly about my thoughts, knowledge and experiences with chastity on my website. Let me know what you would like to hear.

Ruffled Sheets:
What's your favourite chastity device/belt?

Goddess Maya Liyer:
My preference is bespoke, handcrafted chastity devices by Steelwerksextreme.com, they cater for women and men. Also BehindBarz.co.uk  this company supplies chastity belts only for men. Both companies are highly recommended for their excellent craftsmanship, product knowledge and aesthetically pleasing designs. Both companies supply amazing products with the orgasm denied consumer and key holder in mind. 

Ruffled Sheets:
 What's the best way for a potential sub to contact you?

Goddess Maya Liyer:

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